I think privacy and social media are inherently at odds
It doesn't have to be.
I've spent decades online on Usenet, IRC, Slashdot and elsewhere before modern social media, and today on (some) social media sites, and nobody knows who am I because I've always been super-careful to keep my online personae and my real identity totally separate. It takes a bit of paranoia, but it's possible to have an online footprint that's watertight and completely divorced from real-life.
I have many, many online identities and none of them tie back to the real me. But Big Tech sure is aggressively trying to deanonymize me, and it takes a lot more care and effort than it used to to make sure that they never do.