So reading around it looks like Raspberry Pi Foundation now suggests TigerVNC because its optimized for Wayland and the newer version of Raspberry Pi OS (Bookworm) is all Wayland now. RealVNC is not optimized for Wayland and now is pulling this shit on Home users.
I haven't tested this myself yet, just found it through some quick searching.
But this How-To seems to recognize the reasons why the changeover is happening and what RPi Foundation suggests to use, so it seems like a good place to start.
TigerVNC also seems to be Open Source and unpaid, so it seems like a valid replacement option for the moment.