Don’t do unattended upgrades. Neither host nor containers. Do blind or automated updates if you want but check up on them and be ready to roll back if something is wrong.
Those issues are only common on rolling releases. On stable distros, they put tape between breaking changes, test that tape, and then roll out updates.
Debian, and many other distros support it officially: https://wiki.debian.org/UnattendedUpgrades. It's not just a cronjob running "apt install", but an actual process, including automated checks. You can configure it to not upgrade specific packages, or stick to security updates.
As for containers, it is trivial to rollback versions, which is why unattended upgrades are ok. Although, if data or configuration is corrupted by a bug, then you probably would have to restore from backup (probably something I should have suggested in my initial reply).
It should be noted that unattended upgrade doesn't always mean "upgrade to the latest version". For docker/podman containers, you can pin them to a stable release, and then it will do unattended upgrades within that release, preventing any major breaking changes.
Similarly, on many distros, you can configure them to only do the minimum security updates, while leaving other packages untouched.
People should use what distro they know best. A rolling distro they know how to handle is much better than a non-rolling one they don’t.
I don't really feel like reinstalling the bootloader over ssh, to a machine that doesn't have a monitor, but you do you. There are real significant differences between stable and rolling release distros, that make a stable release more suited for a server, especially one you don't want to baby remotely.
I use arch. But the only reason I can afford to baby a rolling release distro is because I have two laptops (both running arch). I can feel confident that if one breaks, I can use the other. All my data is replicated to each laptop, and backed up to a remote server running syncthing, so I can even reinstall and not lose anything. But I still panicked when I saw that message suggesting that I should reinstall grub.
That remote server? Ubuntu with unattended upgrades, by the way. Most VPS providers will give you a linux distro image with unattended security upgrades enabled because it removes a footgun from the customer. On Contabo with Rocky 9, it even seems to do automatic reboots. This ensures that their customers don't have insecure, outdated binaries or libraries.
Docker doesn’t “bypass” the firewall. It manages rules so the ports that you pass to host will work. Because there’s no point in mapping blocked ports. You want to add and remove firewall rules by hand every time a container starts or stops, and look up container interfaces yourself? Be my guest.
Docker is a way for me to run services on my server. Literally every other service application respects the firewall. Sometimes I want services to be exposed on my home network, but not on a public wifi, something docker isn't capable of doing, but the firewall is. Sometimes I may want to configure a service while keeping it running. Or maybe I want to test it locally. Or maybe I want to use it locally
It's only docker where you have to deal with something like this:
Resulting in exposed services. Feel free to look at shodan or zoomeye, internet connected search engines, for exposed versions of this service. This service is highly dangerous to expose, as it gives people an in to your system via the docker socket.
Do any of those poor saps on zoomeye expect that I can pwn them by literally opening a webpage?
No. They expect their firewall to protect them by not allowing remote traffic to those ports. You can argue semantics all you want, but not informing people of this gives them another footgun to shoot themselves with. Hence, docker "bypasses" the firewall.
On the other hand, podman respects your firewall rules. Yes, you have to edit the rules yourself. But that's better than a footgun. The literal point of a firewall is to ensure that any services you accidentally have running aren't exposed to the internet, and docker throws that out the window.