Not sure how you see catering to the needs and abilities of the elderly as lying to myself.
I don't live with my folks, I'm not providing day to day tech support, they install and uninstall their own software, I can't just set it up once and it stays static for them, and they aren't going to learn the ins and outs of WINE.
You're trying to rewrite the parameters of the ask and posturing while you're doing it.