Beehaw has pretty good conversation. I enjoy my discussions on their communities. It also has an extremely low bar for defederation – it’s defederated with even lemmy.world. I don’t like that, would not use that as my home instance.
Haha that's an instance I haven't heard about in a while... I personally blocked it because I want to talk to everyone on lemmy, not just half the population when I have a conversation on lemmy I don't want to respond to a post that less than half the lemmy population can see, and they've defederated from the largest instances.
And i guess that's the good thing about the lemmyverse - you decide what level of control you want.