I see mansplaining is alive and well on lemmy…but also the old ‘I’ve been trained’ but never in an actual fight.
All training does is give you options if, and only if you are the type who can go into fight response. It’s a chance. A gamble. Not an assured win.
psychos target people they feel are vulnerable. some even go after children and elderly or catch people unaware. that is their MO. And IF you are lucky enough to operate a can of spray you’d have to fight your freeze defence that affects the bulk amount of the population. Psychos know this. They lean into it.
Even with training you run a high possibility of flicking on a freeze response.There are trained people who have also froze when in an actual fight. And you won’t know this til you’re in it. It’s nothing like sparring.
You’d know this if you actually have done self defence training(any teacher worth their salt start the class with this exact lecture) and have been in a fight to determine which reflex you personally have. even then your specific situation doesn’t help the bulk of the population who freeze.
The best response is to always run as your first option. Every defence instructor will tell you this. Every defence instructor should tell you this.
It is not on women to ‘teach him boundaries’.
Everyone else’s job is to STAY SAFE.
That’s it.
They aren’t there to be a hero or teach men to behave.
stop giving the psycho a pass and stop holding women accountable for what other people do.