Nope it's "start sending pull requests if you want that stuff so urgently, or use another software, but stop whining".
Beehaw has quite a number of users and generally community goodwill, I bet they could find a dev or two with some free time on their hands to work on the features they desire so much. That would be a solution-oriented approach. Simply telling the existing lemmy devs "you need to do this now you need to prioritise this" isn't, no matter how polite the language it's still entitled AF, and just for double clarity "not solution oriented", in the FOSS world, means "toxic".