The illusion of control

ladydrace:
Has anyone else noticed how, when you have a chronic condition of some kind, that there's always the basic assumption from people around you that you're not already doing everything you can?

squidsqueen:
It's all about the illusion of control. People who are healthy like to believe they can always keep being healthy if they do the right things. They don't want to think about how good people get struck with terrible circumstances for no reason. So they keep assuming that if they got sick, they could do something to make it better. And if you're still sick, that must mean you've done something wrong or not done enough.