I honestly appreciate not letting the real harms these policies cause slide just because they are polite about it. No disagreement there.
I've seen it too though, I had a mentor I really looked up to be unhinged after the recent shift in politics and say truley vile things to me I dared imply the "dear leader" might have made a mistake. So no doubt they exist and unfortunately its more than its ever been. Just saying a lot of the reason IMHO as to why people have been more vile is clearly the effect of these out rage bubbles.
Focusing on talking to Conservatives that are open to ideas and mean well matter too, that's who can actuallybeconvincedd.