I would argue that a continuous state of isolation, bolstered by shoddy simulations of human interaction, that we treat as a stand in to real human contact and expression, is going to hurt a whole lot of people in the long run.
It all just feels like some 18th century Libertarian looking at an opium den full of washed out dope-heads and saying "Look at how happy they are! There's no such thing as an opium crisis, because its all voluntary and the end result is profound bliss."
The gay community needs to step up it’s simulation…
The gay community doesn't need simulation precisely because it is rich with enthusiastic socially active and eager individuals. The NEET community needs simulations because they've fallen victim to their own anxieties, failed to develop strong social skills, and alienated themselves from everyone else in their lives who might provide them with the experiences they're seeking a rough approximation of in simulation.