making excuses for doctors to gaslight people into thinking everything is fine and the problem is with them
I'm not making excuses, because I don't intend to excuse behaviour that at the very least isn't typical, and more likely is just made up. As it is, you've provided no reasonable proof the situation in OP picture is typical or even real in any situation whatsoever (a cursory check of what the diagnosis is about suggests the situation isn't realistic), and you deliberately misinterpreted the diagnosis and exaggerated your "symptoms".
What I'm criticising here is a misinterpretation of a particular psychological diagnosis. Nowhere did I say "everything is fine", nowhere did I say psychological issues in general are merely individual issues. That's a whole other story. If I claimed Donald Trump rapes dead babies, and someone came and said that's ridiculous and there's no proof, is that person a Trump bootlicker? Fuck no. So why is criticism of this (as far as I can see for now) made-up idea that ODD diagnosis is abused this way "bootlicking"?