This just reminded me of something I saw the other day. Walked past the same guy both directions on a quick errand and he had a bunch of passports laid out on the sidewalk. I didn't stop to inquire, but it seemed pretty clear to me what was going on.
That sounds less like validation, and more like praise. Validation comes without expectations. You are valued. Your existence matters. You are okay, and we like you. Its nice to have you around. You cannot fail to live up to this; its an intrinsic value you have (perhaps up to the point where your crimes exceed in to the unforgivable, but for the sake of argument, I'll just assume you're not a serial killer or whatever).
Well, I'm sure you and they meant it well but they would say "you're good, take your time, we like you the way you are" and now I cannot get anything done or take meaningful steps to improve my lifestyle.
Ah, I see. So you grew content with who you are, and now you have no motivation to improve yourself to your personal ambitions. That's an angle I hadn't considered. Well, in that case, get off your ass and get shit done! Just DO IT! :D I don't know if that helps, but I know discipline and motivation is something a lot of people struggle with, who eventually figure it out.
If it seems completely hopeless and nothing works, have you considered talking to your doctor? Because there are after all some pretty big motivation eaters in undiagnosed ADHD or depression, etc.
I have the opposite problem where I’ve received zero validation and just assume anyone even attempting it is just fucking with me and can be ignored or treated as a joke
I watched it on acid because I thought it was just some drug movie so good to watch while tripping right? I had to go sit on a bench in the park for a good hour at like 3am after I finished.
We stopped talking after she got herself stranded in a different city to manufacture a big crisis where people had to rescue her from south central LA at 2AM. She said it was a mistake but we later overheard her bragging about how she did it on purpose to get attention.
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