That's a good segue! One place here that I've noticed has way less toxicity than reddit is the Linux communities. I found the reddit Linux subs had a load of gatekeeping, people tended more towards going: if you can't figure out how to use a search engine you probably shouldn't be using Linux.
And then complaining that the general public doesn't want to use Linux.
Here on lemmy I see a lot more people hopping in a thread to say things like: here's the solution to your beginners issue, and here's how to look it up. If you have more issues just shoot me a reply and I'll gladly give you any help I can.
It's really refreshing to be honest.
Otherwise I very much agree there's a lot of doom posting everywhere else.