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Oszilloraptor

@Oszilloraptor@feddit.de

she/they, non-binary transfeminine individual based in Berlin

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Oszilloraptor ,

To prove your point, please dox yourself.

I'd be interested in your full name, address, your phone numbers, your email adresses, birth date and credit information (which is probably in the order details)

Oszilloraptor ,

Not OP, but yeah...

There are a few mental/neurological conditions that lead to a big adversion against ordinary recurring tasks.

(In my case it's PDA; but it's something that I see across multiple neurodivergent spectrums, as well as in people with depression)

Oszilloraptor ,

Can I get a (few) title(s), please?

I've read (only) half of the disc-world books, but I don't know what you're referencing.

Oszilloraptor ,

Thanks for the fast response :)

Oszilloraptor ,

Thanks for the extensive response :)

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    Oszilloraptor ,

    Yes, but it's a bit hard to get; even in countries that try to improve trans-care rather than reduce it.

    There are just so many therapists; the waiting lists are sometimes simply closed because they stretch years.

    For many people, these hormones mean the difference between a livable life and extreme dysphoria, depression and suicidality.

    If they could get them on the regular way, they would. But the regular way is often full of problems. So some people have to fall back to just do it themself.

    I even heard of doctors who do some medical checks under the counter to ensure everything is done as safe as possible (but aren't able to prescribe hormones themself without prior psychotherapeutical indication)

    So; your point would be valid in theory,
    but unfortunately for many trans-people, it's the only way to get their possibly life-saving medication.

    Oszilloraptor , (edited )

    I don't disagree with the point that it shouldn't need to be this way.

    But it is what it is; and it's live saving medication that has to come from somewhere.

    People are fighting to tackle the problem officially; but they also have to somehow live in the meantime.

    Almost all trans people would prefer a prescription and medical supervision above having to pay themself and guesstimate the doses without proper bloodwork. But some just don't have any alternatives.

    And to be clear: I will always recommend people to try the official way first. local transpersons that asked me for advice all got a "I can help you get therapy; I can help you to skip therapy and go the indication route; I can reluctantly help you skip indication and go the informed-consent-route without psychotherapists but still medical supervision, even tho I really discourage that unless your transidentity is obvious since many years; but I will not help you to get DIY (without medical supervision) unless you tried the official approaches, sorry".

    But for some people, there is no other option than DIY. Getting a place for therapy can be really hard, and some countries have no alternative routes to get a prescription with medical supervision without going through years of therapy first.

    (Btw, I don't know how the laws are in the UK. I'm from germany. But the problem is the same everywhere. I got lucky to be able to get a prescription, tho; but I know a few people that weren't)

    Oszilloraptor ,

    Just do it.

    There are many large people that look beautiful. You have to search for the right clothes.

    I assume from your comment that you're maybe a bit chubby; that's no shame. Many chubby people look wonderful in fem clothes.

    You maybe should go for something more comfortable than the sexy secretary look, but (unless your suuuuper overweight) there will be something that's suiting your figure. Just google some guides for transfeminine clothing and try some stuff. Many of us wanna wear feminine clothing while having similar issues. A love for food is not depending on the gender ;)

    Btw: My personal recommendation are long black skirts from the steampunk/goth/pseudo-victorian niches. They often have enough accessories and other highlights to distract; and they don't look all that bad if one is a bit larger

    Oszilloraptor ,

    But yeah I'm ~235lbs/106kg guy, and I don't like how I look most days in the mirror in a boring t-shirt and shorts, let alone trying to be desirable, so I'm kinda setting myself up mentally for disappointment. We shall see.

    Sounds like me a year ago xD

    Try find something that suits your figure; fem clothes can be quite good at camouflaging and distracting from problematic areas if one gets the right stuff.

    And it drastically boosts self image when you found clothes you feel comfortable in, even if only in certain situations.

    And my personal experience in case you don't like your face (I didn't, but I've got gender-related dysphoria in that regard): these femboy-cat-face-masks; wear them if you try out or take pictures in dresses. Allows you to focus on the clothes instead your face. After you found clothes you like with that mask on, you might take a look at some basic makeup. Nothing too fancy, but a bit of foundation, powder, minimalistic eyeshadow and mascara can do wonders.

    But essentially: Try it! Do yourself a favor and try it! I wish I would have given in sooner instead of always thinking "nah, won't suit me anyway and I will just look like a dude in a dress". Wearing stuff like that played a huge part in realizing who I am.

    (And it gave me a reason to loose some weight. 103kg->88kg since December)

    And obviously: Should you find out in the end that fem clothes are just not your thing; that's fine as well! But if the idea was already in your head: try it ^-^

    Oszilloraptor ,

    Depends on the granularity you want.

    This sounds like you could fit under the "non-binary" umbrella, but there are many subcategories. Maybe genderfluid .

    Or maybe you're cis but just don't see a use in following gender-stereotypes.

    But in the end, getting lost in labeling is not needed. Just be you. ^-^

    Oszilloraptor ,

    Self-proclaimed eggs realize they might be not-cis; but they haven't found themself yet. Or are in the denial phase. Or many other things.

    Our shell show cracks, but we haven't hatched yet.

    Oszilloraptor ,

    I think I figured it out:

    The left number is always going one up, while rights number decrease - starting at two - always halves itself.

    Therefore 5 should be 42.5

    Oszilloraptor ,

    why not

    ...

    System
    .out
    .println(
    "Hello,

    ...

    ?

    Oszilloraptor ,

    before 9/11

    Oszilloraptor ,

    Defnitely at least half a wheel

    FTFY

    Oszilloraptor ,

    "I don't worry about missing security patches. I just have 5 anti-virus tools running simultaneously, they keep me safe."

    Oszilloraptor ,

    https://digitaltmuseum.se/021015749757/kollision-mellan-bil-och-ubat

    The text in OPs fake-screenshot is fake; but the photo/incident itself seems real

    Oszilloraptor ,

    (not op)

    Sure, but in this case, most of the lemmy-clients (FOSS or not) are bad.

    I have problems logging into my accounts (seems like some instances want my email as a username and many clients cannot handle this after I switched accounts), some clients don't feature editing or deleting your posts, some clients don't show my saved content, some clients don't allow to see what you posted

    Sure, much of this is because they started from scratch and will maybe surpass sync some day; but right now I couldn't find something that isn't worth.
    (didn't try infinity yet, tho)

    it's not necessarily "FOSS is bad"; it's just that the current lemmy-ecosystem is in it's child shoes (I have the feeling this proverb doesn't work in english?)

    That said: I use Sync4Lemmy since 5 minutes and this is my first comment; so let's see if/what it will deliver

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