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GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

I have a hotdog in my car.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

A few weeks ago, X’s director of engineering, Haofei Wang, said the upcoming change is meant to protect users’ public image — because “many people feel discouraged” to like “edgy” content.

Oh my god, he's trying to make it Reddit.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

uwu

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

You're... not wrong... 🤔

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

This coming from the guy literally picking fights in the conservative community over this...

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Oh my fucking god, this. Why are people like this?

"I have no idea what you're talking about"

to

"Why are you mansplaining??" In 6 seconds...

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

This post is my lived experience.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Neither. They expect us to figure out and speak in the flowery language and codes that they use, and get upset when we can't, when I feel like it would be easier for them to just -listen- to what we're saying, because it's usually in black and white.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Well now you tell me... ;)

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Not when you're speaking in code...

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Not 100% sure what you're asking, but I think it's about the flowery language and "code"?

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

I'm just really direct, and get told I need to consider how I say things... The only example coming to mind is something I don't really want to talk about openly on Lemmy. I'll give a vague represantation though

(My statements are verbatim, the replies are paraphrased)

I'll say "You didn't do XYZ." - They say "But I have done X"

Next time I try "Have you done XYor Z?" - Then I hear "Why are you interrogating me?"

"What have you done?" - "Why are you being accusatory?"

Those are all plain and simple black and white questions. I have yet to figure out the code I was supposed to speak.

Those examples are from the same person, but I get this reaction from most people when I ask simple questions

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Thanks for the insight. It'll be something to keep in mind going forward.

The place I experienced this the worst was a job where I was in a leadership position, lol. (I have since come to the conclusion that I'm not the leader type)

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

The same ones who still pay for AOL

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Yeah, okay buddy. I suppose next you're gonna tell me climate change is real, huh?

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

YYYY.MM.DD

Hyphens are overrated

Coming to terms with no longer having privacy and control over my technology

I miss the days of VHS and DVD shelfs in homes, for example. If you bought the tapes and had them in your home, no corporate entity could alter those tapes without your consent, monitor how many times you watch them, sell your data to whomever they please without your knowledge, roll out new mandatory conditions to a 'user...

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Jesus, you people are everywhere

(and I love it, lol)

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

He looks like if Peter Dinklage had a baby with John Krasinski

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

I can see it

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

They're trashing our rights! TRASHING!

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

It takes emotional bandwidth to carry hate, whether you think about it often or not.

It's not a question of right or wrong, or whether it's deserving or not. You're paying for it as long as you're carrying it, so I would ask if it's still worth it.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

It is for everyone. It's how we work. Outside of maybe certain types of mental illness or disability. It's also very easy to feel like we can carry it without consequence, especially for younger people (I'd say mid-30's and below)

"I can hate someone without it affecting other parts of my life" is just an objectively false statement. I know there is virtually nothing a Lemmy rando can do to change your mind, but one day you'll feel the weight, I promise.

No one is special enough to be able to carry such a core human emotion without consequence.

I'm not trying to argue, but unless there is something about how you process emotions that places you in a vanishingly small percentile, you're gonna pay for it.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Have you ever bought something that seemed worth it at first, but found out later it was a bad deal?

Hate typically affects you far more than who you hold it for.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

This is what we get for conflating a persons talent and ability with their net worth

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aversion_to_happiness

AKA: Cheruphobia

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

I think it can be, but I don't think it -is-

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

You people are so irritating.

GardenVarietyAnxiety , (edited )

Well it's never permanent, but I would imagine someone in good health, with strong familial and social connections who lives above the poverty line (person A) is much more likely than someone without one or all of those things (person B) to have a stable feeling of happiness.

Stable, in this context, meaning harder to shake or break.

An example being person A is having a good day and they get a flat tire. The issue is much more likely to be resolved without affecting their overall happiness very much, whereas person B's day might be ruined, which is more likely to have a knock-on effect that can greatly reduce overall happiness.

This is not to say someone without those things wont be happy, just citing a few top level things that, when absent, can make someones life experience more difficult.

As far as under what circumstances would someone experience stable happiness? That's different for everyone because we all have unique challenges in life and how we were raised can directly influence where we are emotionally and what it will take to find happiness.

One of the most sure fire ways to find happiness is in kindness and forgiveness to others, as well as yourself.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Ah, a nihilist. I know my limits, and virtually nothing I can say will change your mind because it's still closed, and you likely already have an answer to any questions you ask.

However, I'll leave you with this:

You can see it as naive and idealistic, and sure, I get it. But I never claimed happiness is permanent. It's a worldview, and those can and should change. How they change is entirely up to the individual.

You have more control over your path than you realize, and those who benefit from a defeated or complacent populace are terrified of you realizing it.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Thanks! I loved the flow.

And I agree. Ups do not require downs. Just the opposite, in my experience. One person's "up" can, and often do, lift the others around them.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

It reads to me like you think these companies are entitled to a user base. They aren't. Just because it costs money to run a service, it does not mean we have to accept the price they charge or the anti consumer practices.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

That was a whole lot of assumptions about me. That, with the emotional language being used tells me that this interaction isn't going anywhere useful or productive, so I'mma go ahead and step out.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quantum_chromodynamics

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

I know it sounds cheesy and cliche, but we have to stop being defeatists about it. If enough of us stop and are able to convince -anyone- else to stop with us, we can win. If we don't, we lose. We -just- need to get some momentum.

It really is as simple as that. This goes for AI, politics, anything.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Same thing I said to the reply above yours...

I know it sounds cheesy and cliche, but we have to stop being defeatists about it. If enough of us stop and are able to convince -anyone- else to stop with us, we can win. If we don't, we lose. We -just- need to get some momentum.

It really is as simple as that. This goes for AI, politics, anything.

"I feel like I'm seeing more and more people take a stand... Maybe I should too."

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

It really does seem like he's -trying- to kill it

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Not binary.bin?

GardenVarietyAnxiety OP ,

TXDMV.GOV

It opens on my cell phone, but my desktop gives me a static image with no links.

GardenVarietyAnxiety OP ,

Holy shit. This is really good to know... Thanks

GardenVarietyAnxiety OP ,

This is great... lol. It redirects me on mobile but not desktop...

GardenVarietyAnxiety OP ,

Thankfully I don't live there, so it's only my problem once.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Cancel Culture, Woke, Communism... When you don't understand a lot about the modern world, you just start using words and phrases you also don't understand to mean "I dislike this"

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

Yeah, the original meme is clowning the guy, showing that he's an idiot with frivolous opinions

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

This isn't cancel culture though. You are proving my point.

And my last post wasn't a straw man either... It was describing people who use terms they don't understand to express their dislike of things. It's literally you. In this thread.

I mean... I guess it could be that you're knowingly misusing it just to create anger and division. But you wouldn't do that, would you? That would make -you- the problem.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

I had a family member like this... They'd go off about how awful capitalism is, and the shit that goes with it (to which I'd generally agree) but have a house full of google home devices, brag about how much they buy on amazon, and simp for the giant megacorp for which they worked a retail job...

It woulda been funny if it wasn't so sad.

GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

I spose you missed the part where I generally agreed with his criticisms (as someone who is also part of the system), and how the focus of my reply was the simping and bragging.

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    GardenVarietyAnxiety ,

    20 hole dollars. amirite??

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