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fushuan , 1 month ago to Technology in Things the guys who stole my phone have texted me to try to get me to unlock it - Gothamist

100% agree, just take into account that most people you encounter on lemmy, specially on posts about security, are in that 1% that tweak stuff and if you throw blanked statements they will think you are talking to them specifically.

fushuan , 1 month ago to Technology in Things the guys who stole my phone have texted me to try to get me to unlock it - Gothamist

Oh, I assumed that you would be forced to type your password or have enough rights to install stuff in a computer, be it in person or remotely, so I assumed that whatever 3rd party program they used required to have enough access, and that apple would use the apple id as a master password, given that it's what is being used to lock down the device itself.

Well, yet another issue with apple lol, why add a ownership id if it's not even what gives root access. Lmao.

fushuan , 1 month ago to Technology in Things the guys who stole my phone have texted me to try to get me to unlock it - Gothamist

The issue here is that while baseline apple is more secure than baseline android, a user with knowledge or a guide can improve the android security by a lot, whereas the apple baseline is also the ceiling. There's stuff you can do with iPhones but if you don't trust apple, you are kind of fucked.

Android people that mention security won't be using a stock phone from the store, they will have disabled stuff, enables alternative stuff, or even installed a completely new android based OS, and this can't be done with iPhone or iOS.

fushuan , 1 month ago to Technology in Things the guys who stole my phone have texted me to try to get me to unlock it - Gothamist

I'm with you that you should be able to log out remotely, but this is more of a failure in the IT department. You should have been given a PC with the apple ID already introduced, with your company mail and some password. How would they even access your PC remotely for security udpwtes if they didn't have access to your appeal id? Right, they didn't. So they gave a computer they didn't have remote access to, not properly configured, and then forced you to either move or give private information.

fushuan , 1 month ago to Technology in Things the guys who stole my phone have texted me to try to get me to unlock it - Gothamist

It's more about the fact that they didn't have a webpage in their apple account where they could remotely log out, and the IT department had the physical computer so they had to either move to the department or give the department their personal password, which is bogus. Being able to remotely log out of the computer doesn't seem to be that big of an ask.

I get thay the computer should remain locked if there's no internet, but once the computer gain connectivity it should unlock if it was logged out in the user page.

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in Had my personal 9/11 yesterday rule

As a non american, all I know is that it was not that big of a fucking event, people died but with the gravity they talk about it compared to other actual big world events, you'd think that millions died.

Mind you, I'm not against them being like their stuff was serious, all I ask is about consistency. I've been called terrorist jokingly for being from the Basque country by the same people that got super offended by 911 jokes. How fucking dare them.

fushuan , 1 month ago to Comic Strips in Writing believable characters is hard

Loss would be 1+2+2+3-1

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in cheap uprule farming post by posting someone talented's work

I am a dwarf and I'm digging a hole...

fushuan , 1 month ago to linuxmemes in btw

Tfw you install endeavour and after some time you consider swapping to pure arch because that icon is just so god damn perfect.

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in Autism rule

I wrote basically this in another comment, they had a hard time recognising their emotional state and held until bursting out. This was way before they were diagnosed though, after a lot of therapy they are much better at identifying their state, or simply they try to keep in touch a lot more so that I can be there for them before they burn out.

As the neurotypical person in the relationship, my advice is to try to keep in tough more regularly so that your SO can detect if you are halfway through burning out so that they can help you before you become completely unavailable.

My SO also has generalised anxiety and ADHD, so I usually tell them that when they keep burning out for weeks it's really painful for me because I feel very left out, which resonates a lot with them. I guess that this helps them to do the effort of keeping me up to date so that I can let them vent, hug them, ask which kind of food they would like to uplift their spirits... and all that stuff before they burn out.

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in Autism rule

That's the thing, communicating stuff before you become upset. For example, my SO used to come from work exausted and used to lie down in the sofa, slept until night, then maybe grabbed some dinner or just slept straight until the next morning. Sometimes we didn't speak at all in 2 to 3 days because they woke up earlier than me, they then went to work in a hurry, no talking in work because work takes 200% of focus, and then come back home to their date with the sofa, and end up sleeping again before I finish my work.

Now we chat about our day at lunch even if we are not together and they vent about it whenever they can so that when they come back, I can make some time for them, and they also manage work stress way better than before so they don't come back utterly exhausted every day. Learning that they could not work in the field they were working and live to tell the tale and taking the time to change fields with my support helped a lot too. The situation mentioned above was before they were diagnosed and they just bruteforced the workday in a super toxic way for them and those around them (me).

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in Autism rule

Sorry if I implied I asked all those questions at once. It's more of a menu where I sometimes asked one or the other. My point was that they just communicated nothing once they broke down.

Alongside teaching them not to flood you with questions when you can't deal with them, remember to communicate what you can to them before you break down so that they don't feel helpless watching you break down without even being able to help or know what's going on.

As I answered in other comments, this happened mostly before my SO got diagnosed and didn't know how to deal with it, now with therapy we both deal better with it so I don't flood them and they don't leave me out of the loop of their needs and wants.

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in rule

I'm guessing it's "JewsAgainstIsrael", given the current geopolitical context and the stance tankies usually have on that matter.

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in Autism rule

Is there anything I can do for you?

That's usually on the menu of stuff that I said, and before they went to therapy it had no effect. You see, autistic people usually don't express how they feel because they themselves don't even realise it, and the only realise that they feel bad when they break down. My SO had to go to therapy to learn to identify cues and to learn how to express themselves a bit so that they could vent or ask for help before breaking down.

We've been together for a while so I usually know what they need or they tell me they feel bad way before breaking down, but let me tell you, it was a struggle early on sometimes. It's hard to see someone you love struggling, but not doing anything to improve because they don't realise they are hurting before it's too late, day by day, week by week. We didn't know they were on the spectrum either early in the relationship so... yeah.

I was just taking a jab to the meme because that tale of them expressing themselves correctly is not true at all. xD The amount of stuff my SO used to describe as "thing", multiple times in the same sentence, and assume that I would understand what they meant because of the 5 mental leaps they did in their head that gave them and them only the context needed to know what those "things"s were, and since they understood that meant that I did, obviously... It was quite funny at times.

fushuan , 1 month ago to 196 in Autism rule

It's hard to feel heard when all you communicate is "It hurts", that doesn't really qualify and venting or letting the feelings out.

It's quite curious the amount of comments I've gotten about people telling me that they just wanting to vent, no shit. Venting usually means... talking, me putting the ear so the other person can talk and vent. I didn't summarise what they said when they complained in my comment, that was literally it.

After going to therapy they have gotten much better at expressing their complaints so that they can let out their frustrations. The thing is, autistic people have a hard time knowing how they feel, so venting is actually hard for them, that's why I was asking questions to help them identify why they felt how they felt and help them know which kind of emotions they should let out. Don't worry, if I'm going overboard they have no issue in telling me to stop now. It's been a long journey but after all this time, I usually end up telling them how they feel so they can vent because I do know them well after these years 😅.