The most likely reason, I suspect, is that "mainstream" sex toys were not made for lesbians until relatively recently. They were made for hetero women diagnosed with "hysteria" and, generally, by companies run by cis-het men.
Serious answer: sexuality is much more complicated and doesn't only involve sexual organs. Sexuality encompasses a social and cultural aspect as well. Including transwomen also means including women can have penises. Things like straight pegging is becoming more main stream as well. Just like how a lesbian uses a penis shaped dildo, a man using a dildo isn't necessarily gay, bi, or pan. There's also a biological function as well. Women and men did evolve concurrently together which means our genitals "fit together" which may explain why some people prefer a penis like dildo. I think this idea gets supported as we look at the plethora of dildo adjusted and created to really hit the spot like bad dragons and others.
as a femcel college student whos never owned a sex toy (my mom looks at my credit card account and I don’t want to embarrass her) here’s my thots on this.
cis lesbians probably would use fleshlights more if they had something to stick in them. maybe they could rub their clit & labia in the hole, but it still seems kinda wasteful since they’re only using the top part. it would probably be a better idea to get a grinder that vibrates
So most places online that sell sex toys have very innocent names that they bill you under. They will often list it as "you will see this charged to innocent-sounding-name" so that you don't accidentally assume it's fraud on your statement.
Because it’s not the penis we hate we just aren’t attracted to the dicks typically attached to them.
Also sex toys have evolved from just penis shaped dildos. Many of us prefer abstract shapes or stuff like finger shapes for those, but also vibrators and suction toys are popular.
Also I’m pretty sure I’ve been hearing this joke since before I hit puberty
Yeah and I think part of why the joke annoys me is like, is that all some men think of themselves as? Like when I think of what I find particularly unattractive about men my first thought isn’t dick, it’s that smell that drives straight women crazy, it’s just such a turn off to me. There’s plenty else too, but like that joke is part of an entire class of shit that (particularly older) men say to lesbians that leaves me thinking they really need to talk to some people who are actually attracted to men about what they like, and to understand that in general even when I like the same part it being too masculine is not for me.
Very true. I'm bi and while I like dick it's not exactly the first thing that attracts me to men. I think in general the root of these kinds of jokes is the idea that deep down all women NEED men to be sexually satisfied, and a general assumption that lesbians are perpetually on the brink of "switching sides". Just more homophobia as per usual.
Yeah my favorite is the guys trying to assure us that they’re so masculine they can turn us and I’m just here like, if I absolutely had to sleep with a guy I’d pick the most feminine one I could.
And I think the real root of these jokes is insecurity in their value. If they value women for sex what value do they have to women who don’t want them for sex? And the answer is simple, it’s as a person. My friends that are men are my friends because they’re people I like to spend time with. And they’re of all orientations, but with the shared trait of being good guys. You can’t be so manly every woman wants you in bed, partly because some of us don’t want men at all but also because there are straight women and bi women who like their men effeminate or androgynous. Tastes vary so you’ll never be everyone’s type.
Sex toys have come a long way, fellas! Don't worry about what women are using unless those women have invited you to witness! (My current fave thing is shaped like a mouth with a tongue sticking out and I'm not even a lesbian!)
That's not what the inside of a vagina looks like. The answer is that evolution caused that shape to be one that's good at causing a pleasure sensation from penetration of a vagina. However, other shapes also exist and also do this. The penis shape is just the classic option.
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