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Valheim, Grounded, Satisfactory

BolexForSoup ,
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Aww yeah that’s the tune to funky town

BolexForSoup ,
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There are enough readily available marriage stats that you don’t need to make one up.

BolexForSoup ,
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How old are you? No need to be specific this isn’t a creepy question lol just roughly what age are you? Because I don’t think we can make any sort of broad assessment until the people who had kids when they were young have kids out of the house. I know plenty
of people who are enjoying their 40’s with kids happily going off to college around that time. If you have kids in your early to mid 30’s - assuming you stopped at 35, which isn’t a given - you’re starting to have them out in your mid 50’s. Those are very different times for you, physically, mentally, professionally, etc. even if it doesn’t seem like it.

I imagine for many in this thread it is too early to be making a final assessment. I think also a lot of people here forget that nobody is thrusting these decisions upon them (except maybe overeager parents who want to be grandparents, in which case they need to back off). Different people have different objectives/goals in life. They aren’t worse off for not doing it your way.

The strongest marriage I know is my buddy from high school who married his high school sweetheart, right when they graduated college at 21. They just had their 3rd kid at 35 and they’re ecstatic. First was at 22 or so.

The point is a post like this shows a certain amount of hubris/lack of imagination/lack of exposure to people with different lifestyles and priorities.

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Having a kid in your 20s is not for you, but you can’t just assume that that is the case for everyone else.

I mean, let’s take this post: what is so magical about 24? Why not 25? Why not 23? I imagine the number was pretty arbitrary. It just sounded right to OP.

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When he says normalize, he’s not saying it is something that people should seek out. In case that was somehow taken that way.

The problem is there is immense social pressure, especially against women, to never have a divorce. It is seen as a failure, whereas sometimes it is simply the result of circumstances beyond our control or is just something one person, or maybe both, need in their lives.

I am happily married. Like many people we have had our ups and downs. Every couple should do everything they can to repair their relationship and make it work. But sometimes it’s just not enough. Sometimes you weren’t supposed to be together, sometimes one person has some issue that they just will never resolve, sometimes you find out things about your partner or things emerged down the line. We are not prescient, things change. So people should feel very comfortable divorcing without all of the social baggage that comes with it. Because divorce is inevitable, it is never going to go away. And it is a viable decision for one to make.

As for marriage, you don’t have to participate and to say you just want it to go away is kind of ridiculous because we both know that is not going to happen. So we deal with reality and accept that divorce is part of the marriage landscape.

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This is just another person who doesn’t want to get married that therefore thinks nobody else should be allowed to.

BolexForSoup ,
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Grazie for grabbing that

BolexForSoup , (edited )
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Now there’s a hoopy frood who knows where his towel is

BolexForSoup ,
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Then you can not act on it and those of us who care about such things can. Does that bother you?

BolexForSoup , (edited )
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Are you seriously complaining about different comment threads within a post? That is literally how this works. Anybody who wants to talk about the feature is welcome to. You are not restricted to one thread at a time.

Be real, you just don’t like the critique of brave.

BolexForSoup ,
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You are spending more time than anybody discussing this. The person wrote one short comment and here you are going back and forth still. If you want to talk about the removed feature then talk about the removed feature! Nobody stopping you my dude

BolexForSoup ,
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Yeah, so committed to privacy that he built it on chromium

BolexForSoup ,
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Don’t feed the troll

BolexForSoup , (edited )
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I can assure you I am not in any way impacted by your decision to use or not use Brave

BolexForSoup ,
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Take your meds, dude.

It’s 2024 you should know this is a terrible thing to say to people.

BolexForSoup , (edited )
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Of all the reasons to choose a browser “somebody on the Internet disagreed with me and pointed out a time sink/distraction of my own making” has to be the most utterly bizarre I’ve heard yet. I’m glad it’s working out for you though. If you’ve accidentally stumbled upon a good solution, then great.

Choosing a daily browser out of spite as they remove a privacy feature is mighty perplexing, but hey, you sure showed me.

EDIT: Fake screenshot about some facts from the Palworld development, very loosely based on a really interesting blog post from the dev that's linked in the post body. (programming.dev)

UPDATE: So, apparently it's mostly fake, taken from this article [translation] (where they even mention some kind of VCS)....

BolexForSoup , (edited )
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I think they’ll get over their nightmare with the hundreds of millions of dollars they’ve made so far lol

BolexForSoup ,
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You cannot be of joinings Toki’s special club

BolexForSoup ,
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For a few seconds there I got excited because I thought this was an ace combat reference

BolexForSoup ,
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If you just assume all comments online are snarky/sarcastic, you’ll be right 95% of the time.

BolexForSoup ,
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Seriously the fuck is he on about?

BolexForSoup ,
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Step 1: drop gmail

Step 2: get proton mail and activate simple login or use one of the alias slots they give you (or both!). Enjoy.

Optional step 3: Use Firefox relay on top if you really want to go wild but I find this gets folks turned around when layered on top as well. Great for burner/1-time use emails though.b

BolexForSoup , (edited )
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This thing is legit, but why is their example photo showing a laundry machine next to a kitchen sink as part of a whole kitchen set up lol

BolexForSoup ,
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It’s reasonable given the reliability. It’s not affordable however.

BolexForSoup ,
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Microsoft these last few months really has shown that Apple is better about privacy than they are (not that they’re amazing). It just doesn’t even compare anymore though. M$ is injecting tracking and advertising into literally everything now and selling to 3rd partied with impunity. It’s absurd.

Let me be clear that Apple is also not your friend. But when we are taking a birds eye view of all computer users, we have to think about the floor. And the floor at Microsoft is ridiculously low right now.

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problem with Apple is the only support their computers

I mean, that’s a legitimate complaint, but I’m not really sure how that is germane when critiquing how Microsoft is treating their own products since the whole point is Apple doesn’t do that with their own products to the same degree. That’s my point of comparison here.

Big fan of Linux in general, and I am in the process of trying to convert over to it. I will need to have a Mac in my life for the foreseeable future because I am a professional editor, but beyond that I think I can make the leap to Linux as my daily driver.

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A lot of it is internal usage which is (usually) reasonable. And there isn’t anything as expansive as what we see Microsoft doing as far as I can tell. But given their size and reach I would say it’s safe to assume there is something(s) going on with our data we probably object to. They do overall seem more committed to privacy on their machines.

BolexForSoup , (edited )
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You are asking a legitimate question and I would be happy to answer it, but based on your tone and your use of the ridiculously overused/needlessly antagonistic “checks notes” joke you’re not here to have an actual conversation.

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Screw it here’s your answer before you claim I’m dodging it.

This is the company that cooperates with law enforcement the vast majority of the time by handing over vast swaths of user data and used to put in back doors that they would utilize to cooperate with warrants. They also do allow apps to collect data.

So no, it’s not just because they are massive, but because they are massive and have a track record that is pretty gray at best.

I am writing this on my iPhone, I do my work on a Mac. This isn’t some anti-Mac stuff or whatever. I just am acknowledging reality.

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If your loyalty to Apple is so strong that you can’t bother to read what I took the time to put together, or even have healthy skepticism and take basic measures to protect yourself, then this conversation was a mistake to pursue. “Shame on me” indeed. Later man, not wasting my time further.

BolexForSoup ,
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Every time I feel this way, I take one more step to getting rid of one of the offending parties.

I’m like 50% off gmail (proton mail rules), 100% off gdrive/google maps, all in on libre office, proton VPN, little snitch, and about to boot linux onto one of my old MBPro‘s so I can start transitioning over to using Linux as a daily driver. I’m new to it but I’m decently tech savvy so I think I can find a distro that is a decent balance of privacy, control, but still user-friendly.

The list goes on, and a lot needs to be done, but my experience at my computer and online in general has been slowly improving over the last year or two since I’ve gotten more aggressive about it. Also leaving Reddit helped lol

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Sounds like a Bender line lol

BolexForSoup ,
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All I’m seeing is someone who upvotes what they agree with and downvotes what they disagree with lol

BolexForSoup ,
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Do you literally never use the restroom in public spaces or something? Or is this just a special treat when you’re at home?

BolexForSoup ,
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I can’t tell if this is a joke or not lol

Either way, people carry around bidets and soap everywhere they go? Not judging just super surprised.

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You forgot to mention the crypto spam on Brave lol

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